Dear everyone out there who is in a relationship, has been in a relationship or is currently getting out of a relationship,
Websters definition of a relationship goes like this:
: the state of being related or interrelated <studied the relationship between the variables
: the relation connecting or binding participants in a relationship: such as
a : kinship
b : a specific instance or type of kinship
a : a state of affairs existing between those having relations or dealings <had a good relationship with his family
b : a romantic or passionate attachment
Whether you are in a platonic relationship or a romantic one, I implore you to observe some obvious civilities in assuming this kinship and it’s dismissal if it is the case.
“Ghosting”, the new way to exit a relationship, is, above all, disrespectful.
Equally justifiable definitions include cowardly, cruel, painful, sad, lazy, selfish, unkind and many, many other interpretations.
In this current world of complicit unrest and division, it is my concern that it has become too easy to just step away from unpleasant situations and/or not address them with courtesy.
What happened to being human and respecting each other. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. Wasn’t that what we learned as children? What happened to self respect, dignity and truth? What happenend to compassion, appreciation, and recognition of another person’s feelings? Where have we gone wrong in teaching sensitivity?
From experience, I know that the pain incurred from this type of silent assault is deep. “Walk a mile in my shoes…” “See how it feels when the shoe is on the other foot…”. Fear of rejection exists for both parties. Even if you are the rejector. But, for god’s sake, be real, be true and be mature.
Tonight I want to talk about success. Not as it relates to monetary acquisition but more as it relates to emotional and spiritual acquisition.
So, you ask ? “what exactly do you mean?”
Personal success for me has been centered around the intangible gratification of my artistic contributions. Yes, I have been paid…sporadically and inconsistently for my work. But, that has been inconsequential to my well being. I have certainly, and morosely, over obsessed about the lack of financial infusion to my bank accounts, but that has not pre determined my dedication to the project at hand. Each year that passes, I consider the fact that I have not contributed to a 401(k) or some other pre-destined retirement plan. I wonder if I should be really worried…and then, I forget that I thought about it at all.
My point is that success is determined by those who own it.
I know. I am a quintessential vocabularian. It’s my curse.
But I am currently hung up on this concept. Of a sene of deception. The sense of betrayal is prevalent and I smell its lack of loyalty in my midst. I am not comfortable with its presence. Although the unearthing of its truth is painful, I also relish in its exposure.
As I mentioned in my previous post, I’m no quitter. I know I rallied for actually doing it. Quitting. And I do mean to begin quitting some things. Like keeping absolutely everything because I was raised NOT to get rid of anything. But I am quitting that. Stuff. And, I’m quitting some ideas and even some people.
But, quitting on myself and my convictions. That is a NO. I love the definitions below.
“hammer away”…”stop at nothing”…”leave no stone unturned”
I shall perservere, dammit, I’m no quitter…except when necessary.
continue in a course of action even in the face of difficulty or with little or no prospect of success.
“his family persevered with his treatment”
synonyms: persist, continue, carry on, go on, keep on, keep going, struggle on, hammer away, be persistent, be determined, see/follow something through, keep at it, press on/ahead, not take no for an answer, be tenacious, stand one’s ground, stand fast/firm, hold on, go the distance, stay the course, plod on, stop at nothing, leave no stone unturned;